5.9.10

Just the two of us...

Hubby and I spent a wonderfully, lazy afternoon on a date. One of those dates where you stroll hand in hand by the marina, pop into a cafe for a lazy, sinfully delicious lunch, then top it all off with a cold, yummy, creamy vanilla with chocolate chips ice cream. It was totally a last minute decision, and I'm glad that we're doing these things before littl' NinJa comes.

I've been reading this baby book that talks about how baby needs to be welcomed to the family as an addition and that this should not change the husband-wife relationship that we currently share.

In some ways, I agree with that. But in some ways, the relationship will change forever. There's no more just you and me - there's you and me and baby. And baby's not going to be capable of looking after herself just yet. So the relationship will definitely change. Its just a matter of how you're going to let that relationship affect you.

To be honest? I don't know...I don't know if hubby's going to become jealous, if I'm going to be climbing the walls from staying at home or if I'll be in a bad mood all the time due to lack of sleep. I don't know if we'll do the things we do now or become more hermit-like (like we aren't already super hermit-ic!!!) or focus solely on baby and forget our relationships with everyone else.

I guess all things take time to adjust and this is definitely something that means we will need to take some time to find our feet...but hopefully we'll get there. And hopefully we'll get there in one piece...and maybe at some point, we'll even love this so much that we won't even remember what it was like to be just you and me...just like the saying goes...

"Two littl' hands, two littl' feet...
   Now our family is blessedly complete..."

2 comments:

Izso said...

The relationship will change. But there's always the in-laws to help babysit for a couple of hours. Hehehe.

But if you're anything like May, you'd want to bring her everywhere you go. The mother child bond is incredibly strong.

NinJaMoo said...

izso: We've only got one set of grandparents here, remember? And no doubt the bond is strong - I'm sure the father-daughter bond is just as strong!